And I blame Jieyang. Hmph.





The QS is the most mysterious "type" of all, because they can be in any clique, or no clique at all. They could hang on the sidelines of the jock crew, the geeky crew, or the goths, or the emo kids... or maybe they hang with the hip hop crew, but are more into R&B. Or they just hang in the library, reading during lunch. As such, you have to kind of actively scour the QS hotspots to "capture" one, and you'll almost definitely have to initiate the first conversation. Try:
The quiet table in the cafeteria
Parties -- look for the wallflower that looks about ready to leave
The A.V. club, choir, or band
The computer room
Libraries, bookstores, coffee shops
Video stores on Friday or Saturday evenings (the QS often rents alone)
The park on a sunny Saturday




When you flirt, it feels very wholesome and innocent, so people sometimes assume you want to be friends. You're affectionate, but not in a seductive way. When you like someone, you usually get to know him/her as a friend first, and hope it'll eventually turn romantic. Sometimes it just seems easier to go along with the buddy-buddy thing than to actually ask someone out. When you do tell people how you feel, they tend to say things like, "What?! I had no idea you liked me." If you can't work up the nerve to confess your true feelings, at least you still get to spend time with this person as a friend... (We know, we know — that's just not as good.)





Hanging out with people you're INTO into is supposed to be fun; it doesn't have to be rocket science, prom-night-every-night, or a sliding board directly into marriage. And the Happy Fun Time Dater totally gets that. To the HFTD, you can get to know someone just as well (if not better) by letting go of your ego and nerves and just being dorks together as you can by staring into each other's eyes as the sun sets over the ocean. But just so you know: doing the ocean sunset maneuver is nice every once in a while, too... to let someone know they're special.